What are the signs he wants to date you exclusively and what are the differences between a player and a real man who is interested in a serious relationship?
Driven by my past experiences and of people close to me, I can say for a fact that there two types of men in the world: Men who are interested in a serious relationship and men who are interested in sex only.
And it’s really hard to differentiate between the two because they all follow the same patterns when it comes to the initial stages of dating.
I’m pretty sure that every woman out there already knows the drill very well:
He’s texting you regularly, he’s giving you clues that you’re the One, he is so careful of all those little things that mean so much to you, he spends the majority of his weekend nights and free time with you and he even makes future plans.
After all of this, there are two possible outcomes:
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He’s either doing all of this because he’s genuinely interested in a long-term relationship aka exclusive relationship or he’s doing all of this because he just wants to jump into your pants and after that disappear into thin air.
While you’re in the process of figuring out what type of guy he really is and what your dating status or early relationship status is, you notice a few red flags screaming that he might be a commitment-phobe who fears any type of real relationship or who is only interested in getting laid and who is ready to do anything to achieve that (including pretending that he’s the right guy for you).
And that is how you got here. That is when you asked almighty Google:
What are the signs he wants to date you exclusively? (And you did the right thing. It’s always better to ask than to live in ignorance as that will only result in losing more of your time and patience.)
Given that you’re looking for signs that he wants something serious with you and only you, I assume that a committed relationship is the kind of relationship you want as well but you don’t know whether your intentions and wishes are mutual (yet).
First of all, let me tell you that it’s perfectly normal to feel lost and confused about all of this in today’s modern dating world because there are many modern ways to fuck things up, to misinterpret something and to draw all the wrong conclusions.
But lucky you, there are also millions of signs (okay, not really a million but close enough) that will tell you whether a guy wants to date you exclusively or not!
All you need to do is pay attention to his body language, his actions and overall behavior and this will tell you whether he’s a man who wants to date only you or a player disguised as a real man who wants to simultaneously date others as well.
If any of the following signs speak the truth, you know that he wants to date you exclusively and there’s nothing you should worry about!
- He invests a serious amount of time in dating and planning
Many women forget that any guy out there can ask them out but this doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s interested in something serious with them.
He might be constantly asking you out just because he wants to hookup and eventually jump into your pants and the longer you wait, the more persistent he’ll be.
Now, you’re probably thinking how in the world can you ever be sure what a man wants from you and you’ll find the answer in this one word—effort.
The biggest difference between a player or an immature boy and a guy who wants to date you exclusively is in the amount of their effort.
A guy who is interested in dating you exclusively always makes sure to be on time, to organize everything to the single detail and not to cancel plans at the last minute with some low-budget excuses. One of the biggest signs he wants to date you exclusively is him investing a serious amount of time in dating and planning.
This includes making an effort to surprise you from time to time, always choosing a different place, organizing romantic date nights with a candle-lit dinner, proposing exciting things instead of only sitting back and pretending to be interested in something serious for the sake of selfish purposes.
And the most important one—treating you like a lady.
- He asks for your advice and opinions on everything
When a guy is totally interested in you, he will value your opinions and advice above everything.
As a matter of fact, he will ask for your advice and opinions regardless of the situation because he wants you to be a part of it and he trusts your judgment and perspective on different things.
And he makes damn sure to listen to your every word! He doesn’t ask you something just for the sake of asking; instead he makes sure to listen to you carefully and have a meaningful conversation with you.
You know that he’s serious about you when he avoids superficial conversations and when he tries hard to keep the meaningful conversation flowing.
You know that he’s serious about you when he asks you lots of questions and values all of your answers no matter what.
- He’s an open book
When a guy is only interested in a hookup, he will definitely not bother to be honest with you, to tell you things about his life or to leave his phone unattended in your vicinity.
But a guy who wants to date you exclusively has certainly got nothing to hide.
He’s an open book, he uses his phone around you and even shows you all of his social media profiles.
He tells you everything about his past couple of days, about his routine, job, hobbies and similar.
He shares everything with you because he wants to make you a part of his life too and you aren’t worried about a thing because you know that he’s honest to the core.
A guy who wants to date you exclusively always makes sure to keep you updated on everything because he sees you as an important part of his life and not just a mediocre adventure.
See also: 11 Signs You’re Dating A Commitment-Phobe
- He’s interested in getting to know you on a much deeper level
Let’s face it. A guy who is not interested in anything serious with you will not be interested in making an effort to get to know you better, to learn things about you or to bond with you.
But a guy who is totally into you and who is ready to commit to you will definitely be interested in getting to know you on a much deeper level.
So, if he asks you tons of questions about your childhood, your love life, your job, your hobbies and all the other important things, then girl, he’s totally into you and he’s trying hard to learn everything about you.
He’s not just some prick who is only interested in the color of your panties.
He actually gives a fuck about much more important things in your life and he’s eager to learn all of them, to learn all of your likes and dislikes, your passions and much more.
He wants to bond with you on a deeper level because he sees you as an amazing woman with an inspiring life and interesting personality.
- He exhibits positive body language signs
One of the biggest signs he wants to date you exclusively is him exhibiting positive body language signs when he’s in your company.
You see, body language is linked with our subconscious, which means he can’t control any of it.
So, if you notice that he looks you in the eye, it is a strong indicator that he’s trying to connect with you on a deeper level and he’s listening to you carefully.
A man who has pure intentions doesn’t have a problem with prolonged eye contact because he has nothing to hide.
Another positive body language sign is him pointing his feet in your direction while sitting across from you.
This means that he’s genuinely interested in spending time with you, that he enjoys every second of it and that he likes you A LOT.
But if his feet are pointing somewhere else while talking to you, then it means he’s not really engaged in your conversation and he would rather be somewhere else.
So, always pay special attention to his body language signs and you will easily notice whether these signs belong to the positive or negative category.
See also: 17 Genuine Body Language Signs He Secretly Likes You
- He wants you to meet his friends and family
When you really like someone and when you’re genuinely serious about someone, you make sure that they’re involved with your friends and family and all of your close people, right?
But when you’re only interested in something casual, you would certainly not bother taking that guy or girl home or introducing them to any of your close people.
That’s exactly how you can know whether he wants to date you exclusively.
When we’re really mesmerized by someone, it’s in our human nature to introduce them to the rest of our crew because we want them to notice their awesomeness and to be happy for us and our choice.
So, if you’ve already met his friends and family, then congratulations!
If you haven’t, don’t worry and instead give him some more time to prove himself that he wants to introduce you to his important people and be exclusive with you!
- He’s deleted his online dating profiles
If you’re looking for signs he wants to date you exclusively, you should definitely look at his online dating profiles.
If he’s gotten rid of all of them, this definitely means that he’s ready for a committed relationship and something more serious than a regular hookup.
If he’s deleted his online dating profiles, this is a really good sign because you know he’s not interested in meeting other girls and spending his time chatting with them.
His main focus is on you and he’s not interested in wasting his time pursuing others.
Also, one of the biggest signs you’re dating a guy who is ready for a commitment is if he no longer flirts with other girls in your vicinity or when you’re not around.
(Especially if he was a flirt before and now he has all of a sudden changed drastically.)
- He plans his future around you
You know that a guy is totally serious about you when all of his (or the majority of his) future plans include you.
For example, if he’s thinking about moving to another city, he makes sure to tell you that because he wants to see whether you approve of his decision.
He doesn’t want to lose you and that is why he’s willing to compromise and plan his future around you.
He wants to know everything about your plans for the future and he also wants you to know everything about his goals, dreams and his career so that your plans can match.
And that is how you know for sure that he wants to date you exclusively.
Trust me, if it weren’t that, he wouldn’t bother telling you any of it because he would only be interested in finding a shortcut to your panties instead of your heart.
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- He looks for ways to include you in his interests and hobbies
If a guy wants you to be an active part of his life and if he sees you as future girlfriend material, he would make sure to look for ways to include you in his interests and hobbies.
For example, a gamer guy who is not interested in anything serious with you will not bother inviting you to try to play together.
But a guy who wants to get to know you on a deeper level and who wants to establish a real connection will definitely ask you to try out in the gaming department.
You know that he’s serious about you when he does everything in his power to make you a part of his everyday life and the things he’s passionate about.
By sharing everything with you, he’s telling you that he’s eager to spend the majority of his time with you because he enjoys your company more than anything and he feels honored and proud to show you all the things he enjoys doing.
He’s happy to have someone special in his life who will make his adventures and hobbies even more exciting and that’s what a real relationship is all about.
- He tries hard to make a good impression when meeting your people
When you told him that you would like to introduce him to your friends and family, was he a little bit anxious?
If yes, this is a good sign because he obviously cares A LOT about what your people will think of him.
He wants to make a good impression on all of them and that is why he’s a little bit worried and anxious about the whole thing.
When you finally introduced him to your people, did you notice that he was really trying hard to get them to like him?
Did he carefully choose his outfit (instead of picking the first thing from his wardrobe like he didn’t give a damn about it)?
Was he really careful of his words, genuinely open and willing to participate in different conversations?
If yes, then you definitely know that he wants to date you exclusively and he’s ready for a committed relationship.
He wants your people to like him because you’re the one for him and he doesn’t want to risk them telling you he’s not good for you or similar.
Your people are his people and vice versa.
- He’s fine with taking things slowly
If a guy doesn’t force physical intimacy and everything related to it, then you know he’s totally serious about you.
We all know how hard it is for a guy to take things slowly when it comes to girls and if he’s determined to respect your choices and go with the flow instead of pushing things, then you know he’s a real deal.
Now, what I’m about to tell you is some of the most valuable dating advice I’ve ever gotten:
If you want to know whether a guy you’re dating is a player or interested in the real thing, just let him wait when it comes to physical intimacy.
If he’s okay with it, then you know that this is not the only thing on his mind.
You know that he’s interested in getting to know you better first, in sharing things with you and spending some quality time with you.
And you know that he respects you and treats you like a lady, which is one of the most important things when it comes to the initial stages of dating and relationships in general.
- If he does something wrong, he makes sure to apologize to you and make up for it
We all make mistakes all the time and especially when we’re dating someone we really like.
The truth is, the more we like them, the higher the chances that we fuck things up somehow.
So, it’s neither realistic nor normal to expect your guy to be perfect and never make any kind of mistake while you’re dating.
Remember that this is not a measure for the level of his seriousness about you.
The bottom line is that we all make mistakes and the only thing you should pay attention to is what your guy does after he makes a mistake.
Does he apologize to you from the heart and make an effort to do everything to gain your trust again and to make up for everything he’s done?
Or does he pretend that it’s not a big deal and you should forgive him instantly without him needing to say anything?
If he does the first thing, then you know he wants to date you exclusively.
Otherwise, he wouldn’t be bothered about what you think of him or whether he’s hurt you and he would just switch to the next victim.
So, whenever you think of the signs he wants to date you exclusively, just keep this one in a special compartment of your brain because it’s totally valid.
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- He makes some space for you at his place
When a guy is not interested in dating you exclusively, there’s not a chance that he will decide to make some space for you in his closet, bathroom or similar.
Why? Because he doesn’t want to load his territory with your stuff in case some other girls come to his place as well.
He wants to convince every girl that he’s not seeing anyone and they’re the only one in his life (or at least at the moment).
But if he’s determined to make some space for you at his place without you even telling him, it is a huge sign that he genuinely wants you and only you!
It means that his place has officially become your place as well and you have every right to leave your toothbrush in the bathroom, to take some clothes and leave them in his wardrobe and to do whatever the hell you want.
He wants you to feel comfortable and he wants to prove to you that you’re the only one he’s thinking about all the time. You’re the only one who matters to him!
- He regularly texts and calls you
The easiest way to target a player or a commitment-phobe is by paying attention to how regular are they when it comes to texting and calling you.
If he texts only when it’s convenient for him or he regularly makes booty calls in the small hours, then you know the only thing he’s interested in is jumping into your pants.
But if he constantly texts you on a daily basis, retelling you every funny thing that happened to him that day, or asking about your day and what you’re up to, then you know he misses you a lot and he wants to be a part of your life.
He enjoys texting you or hearing your voice because you always make his day.
And the fact that he’s spending so much time to reach you speaks for itself. It means that you are the main focus in his life and his priority.
It means he’s not interested in any other girl except you!
- He’s always there for you (especially when you need help with something)
Players are types of men who come to you only when it’s convenient for them but real men (men who are interested in a committed relationship) make sure to always be there for you and especially when you need their assistance with something.
Real men take care of your every need. They’re not boys making lame excuses like they don’t have time or that they’re in the middle of something really important when in reality they’re probably texting other girls or doing nothing.
And if you notice that your man is always available for you no matter when you text him or call him, then you know he’s real boyfriend material and he’s definitely interested in being a part of your life.
Then you know that he wants to date you exclusively because you’re his top priority and he wants to spoil you, love you and just be there for you!
- He’s not interested in playing games
Many men think that the biggest shortcut to jumping into a girl’s pants is by playing hard to get or playing other games that will make the girl think that she needs to fight for their attention and that she’s not worthy of being with them.
Such men are pure cowards and the biggest wasters of time. (I’m sure there’s no need to tell you that you should avoid them like the plague.)
And then, there are also men who can’t stand playing any kinds of games when it comes to dating and relationships.
Such men are real gold, aka real men.
They are honest to the core, they don’t have any problems looking you deeply in the eyes, they are always there for you and they make sure to apologize when they do something wrong.
If he’s fitting this profile, then you know he’s a man who wants to date you exclusively!
You know that he’s a man worthy of your time and that he’ll always treat you like the lady that you are.
You know that you’ll never have to worry that he’ll do something behind your back because he’s not a player, commitment-phobe or something else.
He’s a real man ready to fight for your attention, ready to win you and deal with the consequences if he accidentally happens to fuck things up.
He’s a real man who wants to date you exclusively and he doesn’t give a damn about modern hooking up or about what other people will think.
And if he’s not fitting the profile…
Then you know what you ought to do. You ought to cut all contact with him and wait for the man who will be worthy of your time.
Wait for the man who will have the guts to date you exclusively and not the one who will shit his pants at every thought of commitment.
You’re a beautiful woman from the inside out and you deserve a guy who will know how to appreciate and celebrate all of you.
You deserve a man who will know how to treat you with respect and make you feel like you’re the only girl in the world.
And until you find him, please do me a favor and don’t settle for anything less than you deserve!
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